Early in December I oversaw the funeral of Mary Wojcik, and the family shared the following pithy and loving eulogy at the cemetery after the committal prayers. With permission, I post it here as an example of a brief and deeply moving expression–a reminder that a few well chosen and personal words tend to make the most poignant and lasting impressions.
To: Mom & Dad
From: Carol, Michael, & Joanie
We are from a cozy 2-family tenement house, which stands proudly across the street from the busy cotton mills filled with people operating huge noisy cotton looms.
From a second floor apartment whose doors are never locked, where the front staircase always has someone coming or going to our grandmother’s and aunt’s first floor apartment.
From hot kielbasa (only from Bronhard’s) sandwiches on kneeded rye bread (only from Bertha’s) with mustard.
We are from stuffed cabbages, cabbage soup and pierogis. Each grandmother having her own special recipes.
From “Did you do your best? Waste not, want not. Haste makes waste. Did you say your prayers? It’s time to go to church.”
From people who are proud of having grandparents who were born in Poland, emigrated to Massachusetts, worked hard, raised families, and ended up owning real estate to pass onto their children.
We are from people who spoke Polish, ate Polish foods, attended the Polish Catholic Church, went to the Church school, had Polish friends, went to the Polish Home for Polish Girl Scouts, swam in the Polish Pond, and danced the Polka.
From people who loved life, gave to those who needed it more, always had dinner together, always had time to give love.
From two parents who worked hard so that their children could go to college and graduate with no loans.
We are from two parents whose love was limitless and whose love was unconditional and constant.
We are from goodness.
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